Not literally of course, so you don’t need to get a restraining order or anything. Even if I had it, I doubt calling would lead to much of a “good time”.
However, in the metaphoric sense I do. From the looks of it, I’m not alone.
The post to which Dalrock links has a lot of comments, very few of which are flattering to Jenny. For Jenny blew up her marriage and has subsequently lived up to every manosphere stereotype regarding the modern female, including attention-whoring on Twitter.
Some of the comments on Jenny’s most recent post are what I would consider to be counter-productive. Typing some variation of DIE BITCH DIE EAT SHIT AND THEN CHOKE ON IT AS YOU DIE FUCKING BITCH YOU WHORE I HOPE YOU GET RIPPED IN HALF BY AN ORANGUTAN FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!! accomplishes very little, and in fact is likely to obscure some of our more rational arguments. For just like the press will focus its cameras on the weirdest freak at the Tea Party, somebody who’s not already inclined to agree with us will notice the references to fecal and disregard the rest of us making a coherent case.
And against Jenny a coherent case has been made, as anyone with the patience to read through the comments will see. However, I doubt Jenny is aware of them, for of The 7 Most Common Feminist Insults used to shame and silence critics, Jenny uses about four to defend herself on a prior occasion. I’m sure she’s gotten a pingback to this post, but I’d be willing to bet my laptop that she hasn’t read to this point; the moment she could tell I’m going to be critical, she’s gone. Were we a bit more measured in our attacks, perhaps she might be somewhat more willing to listen.
But I seriously doubt it. The Hamster is exceptionally strong with this one.
I’ve been talking offline a bit with a woman who can be somewhat critical of the manosphere. She’s definitely on our side in her opposition to feminism and support for natural gender roles, but she finds out vitriol to be somewhat counterproductive. She’s very big on Christian love, charity, and forgiveness, believing that we can never really know why somebody ended up being a certain way. She believes that were we more understanding and less quick to criticize, we’d be more effective.
She’s right on the importance of love, of course. However, although women express love through sympathy and compassion, as men that’s not necessarily how we express it. One way we demonstrate love for our wives is to hug and kiss her. Another way is to beat the crap out of anyone who messes with her.
Furthermore, sometimes it’s ultimately not about the specific individual we’re criticizing. Jenny Erikson’s divorce is about a hell of a lot more than Jenny Erikson. Can Jenny be convinced to see the error of her way? I seriously doubt it, but I hope so.
Yet I have to assume that she won’t be persuaded. The last time I checked, she responded to a grand total of one critical comment at her last post (which has 200+ comments). I’m quite certain that she dismisses the reasonable criticisms of myself and many others about as quickly as those of the guy who keeps writing about poop.
Her defenders claim we’ve no right to judge her. In one sense this is correct. I don’t know the state of her soul; that’s between her and God.
However, I do know that she writes about her divorce a lot. Even as a quasi-public figure, she could have easily quietly gotten divorced and nobody would have been the wiser. She might have had to gradually write less about her family and more about the deficit. Instead, she blasts her personal info to the world, and when you loudly proclaim yourself to be a Christian and then loudly tell everybody about all the things you do that violate Christianity’s tenets, it’s hopelessly naive to assume you won’t get any pushback.
We’re criticized for making Jenny uncomfortable, but consider the alternative. What if Christian Jenny ditched her husband, aired his dirty laundry for the world, and we said nothing, instead offering to be “loving and supportive” of her broken soul in its time of need?
What sort of example would that have set? Jenny has fans and lots of readers, many of them female, and I bet quite a few aren’t thrilled about their marriages each and every day. If Jenny tears her family apart and gets nothing but “support and encouragement”, might not her readers be somewhat more inclined to jerikson their own marriage knowing that she’s got a bunch of warm internet hugs waiting for her on the other side?
Instead, thanks to the manosphere, anyone reading one of Jenny’s diatribes is likely to see that there’s a sizable contingent of us out there who firmly believe that wrecking your kids’ family is wrong. They might be forced to confront the fact that divorce is emotionally devastating for the children involved, that it’s not all about fun and parties once hubby’s gotten rid of, that divorce violates Scripture, that there are a lot of us out there who will frown on you. We might not be having exactly the impact we’d like, but somewhere some family might not be jeriksonned into oblivion because of our efforts.
Jenny had the option to avoid this simply by being quite about it. Instead, check this. The upshot of the entire article is that following Ephesians 5:22 was a mistake. She also airs her husband’s dirty laundry, telling the world he has “social anxiety” and about how his moods ruined her precious afternoons.
We’ve got an entire generation of young men who are extremely hesitant to marry because they’re afraid that this might happen to them, that not only will their wives blow up their families but that they’ll subsequently humiliate him before the entire world. The poor bastard’s going through hell, she’s amplifying it, and in the process she’s helping to destroy the legitimacy of a holy institution that some of us desperately want to save.
I’m going to be critical.
Besides, I have a rather strong suspicion that Jenny being too submissive wasn’t the issue. Jenny is the type to fight for ten hours to take the family vacation to the beach instead of the mountains, and when she finally gives up credits herself for being able to “submit”. Can you see the woman who writes this crap as being capable of anything even remotely resembling this or this? There are quite a few posts up on her blog that were written while she was married. They won’t remind you of Ruth.
I’d rather leave Jenny alone despite her probable notion that I’m obsessed with her. She’s free to do whatever she likes, but so am I. If she repents and tries to make good on what she’s done, if she publicly apologizes for the ways in which she’s criticized her husband (yet another reason to not want a “strong, independent, wife” who writes for sites like The Frisky), if she even just shuts up and stops telling the whole damn world about her dating escapades, I’ll leave her alone. In fact, I might even defend her.
But as rough as things are for any man who gets jeriksonned by his wife, imagine how much worse it must be in the days of social media when your wife’s explorations are broadcast to the world. I’m beyond certain that her husband wasn’t perfect, but treating him like this is downright vile.
It’s one thing to sin (everybody does), but it’s quite another to broadcast your sin to the world without shame or remorse and encourage others to do likewise. It’s one thing to feel confused or ambivalent about Biblical mandates, it’s quite another to blame following the Bible for your mistakes when you probably didn’t actually even follow the Bible in the first place.
It’s one thing to know that Jesus loves you (He does), but it’s quite another to use His love as a get-out-of-responsibility-free card. I know, it can be difficult to reconcile God’s love for us with His insistence that we do things that feel awkward, annoying, or stupid.
But you either keep that struggle quietly to yourself or approach others with it in the spirit of humility. You don’t brag about how you’re some exception to Christian morality because God loves you.
God’s love and His law are meant to work in tandem. If you use one to subvert the other, it means you’re trying to turn Truth against Truth. If you’re fighting God with God, you’re not on God’s side.
Instead, it means you’ve allied yourself with the Enemy. God bless you Jenny, and God bless your daughters. I sincerely hope you wake up (or at least shut up), but until and unless you do, I gotta fight you hard.
And fight you hard I will.
On the other hand, at least you’re not a Democrat.