We tend to think of hypergamy as a purely sexual phenomenon. Unchecked, a woman always wants a better guy, seeks out a stronger Alpha. In the back of her mind, even if things are good, she’s continually looking for better, then better, then better, then BEST! Until something better comes along.
However, our sex drives are never just about sex. The male sex drive also plays itself out in the drives for adventure, power, recognition, and conquest. Likewise, hypergamy affects a woman’s mind in ways that fundamentally alter her perspective on nearly everything.
Unchecked hypergamy is the never-ending quest for an ideal. The hypergamic mind is thus focused less on what is and more on what should be. In relationships, if a woman isn’t reminded of how bad things can get or somehow trained to appreciate what she has, the mundane can quickly bore her; she’ll wander if she can. By nature, she always believes that she can get something even better, and rare is the woman who appreciates what she’s got before it’s gone.
Furthermore, this eternal focus on how much better things could be leads her to disregard the reasons for why so much of her life is going right. The nuts and bolts don’t naturally interest her. The fact that Fred has a job and puts food on the table just is and doesn’t need to be focused on, especially when Hank makes her giggle that way. When she pushes the button on whatever home appliance, it’s supposed to turn on. How does that happen? Who the hell cares, just as long as it happens. It’s little boys who take apart their remote control cars to see how they work, not little girls.
And this overemphasis on the ideal (G) at the expense of what is (A) is why the revolutionary utopianism of the left is largely a feminine phenomenon. “For ye have the poor with you always” isn’t good enough. Let’s end poverty! And while we’re at it, let’s eliminate war, crime, hunger, sexism, racism, and lower gas prices as we stop drilling for oil.
I’m not suggesting that such thing are good, nor that they can’t be lessened. However, in the case of poverty, although we can mitigate many of its causes, one that we’ll never be able to get rid of is laziness. Does laziness cause all poverty? No. Does it cause at least some? Yes.
But the political hypergamist need not consider this, for the political Hamster can always keep her focused on her grand dreams and aspirations. Obama won his elections by appealing to “hope” and idealism to an unprecedented extent, and his followers saw no reason to believe he wouldn’t end wars instead of start them, that he couldn’t close Gitmo, that the very force of their intense belief in him would fail to solve nearly all of our problems. They didn’t pay attention to his cutthroat past because the Hamster told them that their savior could never do that sort of thing.
And much like the woman who decides to discard her boring beta husband, we weren’t encouraged to be grateful for living in the greatest nation in the history of man, we told we needed to fundamentally transform it.
A woman who has decided to support her dream-man can not be dissuaded, and the utopian will never noticed the dismal track record of those who supported her dreams in the past. Just look at this list of dismal economic statistics from Detroit (run uninterrupted by Democrats since 1962) and try to tell me that this is a city run by those with a masculine curiosity about how an economy actually works. As you read further down the list where it addresses our national economy, notice how the wishful thinking of Queen Hamster might partly explain how we got into this mess.
I recently quoted Chesterton regarding how an intelligent reformer finds out why a fence was put up before deigning to take it down. Such intelligent reform, reform based in A, is a part of the masculine thought process. It’s a way of thinking developed through discovering that the action figure falls apart if you remove the black rubber band thingy, that bottle rockets don’t go quite so high if you tape them to your sister’s Barbie doll. (You have to use quite a few and figure out how to light all the wicks at the same time.)
Little girls don’t dismantle their doll houses to see why the door swings shut when you open it; the fact that it shuts is good enough. The only time the door is likely to concern her is when it doesn’t work like it’s supposed to, and then she’s far more likely to call Dad to come fix it than to try to repair it herself.
And of course she’s a Princess, trapped in a tower waiting for Prince Alpha to come and rescue her (even if she lives in the nicest McMansion on the block). If she’s not trained to be grateful for her man, he’ll never be good enough. If she’s not taught how lucky she is to live in a relatively free country, she’ll assume that “fundamentally transforming” it will necessarily improve things.
And if we allow her thought process to frame our political debates instead of the thought process of the boy who grew into a man who understands how things actually operate, Detroit’s gonna be a best case scenario.